love notes from keesh

The time has finally arrived—After 3+ years, Stranger Things returned to Netflix with its 5th and final season. Volume 1 released November 26th and its four, 1+ hour chapters left its fandom speechless. If you frequent here, you know I love to relate authenticity and self-healing to pop culture. As soon as I picked my jaw off the floor from that chillingly, exciting ending—my brain gears got to spinning.

I talk a lot about becoming our authentic selves, but the truth is: authenticity isn’t a destination... it’s a cycle. A continual process of growing, shedding, healing, and evolving. Every season of your life calls for you to step into a new version of yourself, to quantum leap — and that transformation often mirrors Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, a foundational psychological theory in personal development.

From physiological needs to self-actualization, we revisit each level every time we expand. And the ongoing journey of Will Byers from Stranger Things is an amazing example!

There's a lot of buzz on the internet surrounding 'decentering men' and 'decentering the patriarchy' and while YES ABSOLUTELY to all of the above, I try my best to reframe things in a more aligned way for myself. There comes a pivotal  point in many Black women’s lives when we get tired of surviving on autopilot. Tired of performing strength, tired of always being “the dependable one,” tired of shrinking our needs in relationships, friendships, careers, and even in private moments with ourselves.

And when we finally choose to center ourselves — not in a selfish way, but in a sovereign, spiritually aligned way — we often discover something deeper: the way we attach, love, respond, protect ourselves, and show up was shaped long before we ever had the language to name it.

If you were a 90's kid like myself, you were a pre-teen/teen when Mara Brock Akil's critically acclaimed hit series, Girlfriends, debuted on UPN September 2000. It was an instant hit amongst Black women who at the time were not accustomed to easy-going relatable shows of its caliber.

For this week’s love note I want to chat with you about the in-between stages of faith. The past few weeks have been especially hard for me personally in many areas of my life. Back in December 2020, I made the decision to leave Corporate America. I worked in Higher Education as an Executive Director for almost a decade and I decided to walk away, walk out on faith and bet completely on myself.

This week I want to discuss intentionally raising your frequency both internally and externally. One of the best lessons I’ve learned and continue to explore is the knowledge of setting the frequency for yourself and your surroundings. When we make intentional actions to vibrate higher, we simultaneously, set up an environment conducive to our most authentic self.

Have you ever heard the saying, they give me butterflies?

Typically, it is a phrase that refers to the giddy, bubbly feeling felt in the body, predominately the stomach, one can feel when they think of or are approaching a special person, lover, or friend.

As I have mentioned in several earlier love notes, we are each on our own frequency level and it is important to act as the observer and not the judge; allowing another the space to be; just as they are on their chosen frequency level. The same goes for you; observe and acknowledge where you have been, where you are now, and where you intend to manifest to be.