love notes from keesh

There's a lot of buzz on the internet surrounding 'decentering men' and 'decentering the patriarchy' and while YES ABSOLUTELY to all of the above, I try my best to reframe things in a more aligned way for myself. There comes a pivotal  point in many Black women’s lives when we get tired of surviving on autopilot. Tired of performing strength, tired of always being “the dependable one,” tired of shrinking our needs in relationships, friendships, careers, and even in private moments with ourselves.

And when we finally choose to center ourselves — not in a selfish way, but in a sovereign, spiritually aligned way — we often discover something deeper: the way we attach, love, respond, protect ourselves, and show up was shaped long before we ever had the language to name it.

If you were a 90's kid like myself, you were a pre-teen/teen when Mara Brock Akil's critically acclaimed hit series, Girlfriends, debuted on UPN September 2000. It was an instant hit amongst Black women who at the time were not accustomed to easy-going relatable shows of its caliber.

GREAT NEWS—I have officially secured an editor for my second book!!!

This week I want to discuss intentionally raising your frequency both internally and externally. One of the best lessons I’ve learned and continue to explore is the knowledge of setting the frequency for yourself and your surroundings. When we make intentional actions to vibrate higher, we simultaneously, set up an environment conducive to our most authentic self.

Have you ever heard the saying, they give me butterflies?

Typically, it is a phrase that refers to the giddy, bubbly feeling felt in the body, predominately the stomach, one can feel when they think of or are approaching a special person, lover, or friend.

As I have mentioned in several earlier love notes, we are each on our own frequency level and it is important to act as the observer and not the judge; allowing another the space to be; just as they are on their chosen frequency level. The same goes for you; observe and acknowledge where you have been, where you are now, and where you intend to manifest to be.