love notes from keesh

Episcleritis isn’t a word most people know—until their eye turns red, irritated, and painful without warning. When I first started sharing my experience, I quickly realized how little accessible, lived-experience information exists around it. Most explanations are clinical, most treatments are short-term, and most conversations stop at “take this and see if it helps.”

This blog is for anyone navigating Episcleritis who wants to understand their body more deeply—not just quiet symptoms, but listen to what their body is communicating.

If you’re looking for my personal healing journey, you can read my earlier post and watch my YouTube video here: Healing Episcleritis With Traditional Chinese Medicine Practices.

That piece tells my story. This one explains the framework I live by now.

Winter arrives quietly. 

It doesn’t ask for urgency or performance. It shortens the days, nips the air, and gently nudges us inward. In Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM), winter is not a season to conquer—it’s a season to conserve. To slow your breath, soften your pace, and listen more closely to what your body has been holding. 

This season is ruled by the Water element, and with it comes the emotion of fear. Not fear as in panic, but fear as in instinct—the subtle undercurrent that shows up as restlessness, exhaustion, or uncertainty about what's to come. When left unattended, this fear can quietly drain us. When honored, it can guide us back to safety, trust, and deep resilience.

Winter governs the Kidneys (yin) and Urinary Bladder (yang)—the organs responsible for our vitality, endurance, and ability to move through life without depletion. They remind us that strength isn’t always loud, and survival doesn’t require constant motion.

So this is your invitation to fear not—not by ignoring what you feel, but by tending to it gently. By resting where you’ve been bracing. By allowing winter to hold you, instead of resisting its stillness.

There's a lot of buzz on the internet surrounding 'decentering men' and 'decentering the patriarchy' and while YES ABSOLUTELY to all of the above, I try my best to reframe things in a more aligned way for myself. There comes a pivotal  point in many Black women’s lives when we get tired of surviving on autopilot. Tired of performing strength, tired of always being “the dependable one,” tired of shrinking our needs in relationships, friendships, careers, and even in private moments with ourselves.

And when we finally choose to center ourselves — not in a selfish way, but in a sovereign, spiritually aligned way — we often discover something deeper: the way we attach, love, respond, protect ourselves, and show up was shaped long before we ever had the language to name it.

If you were a 90's kid like myself, you were a pre-teen/teen when Mara Brock Akil's critically acclaimed hit series, Girlfriends, debuted on UPN September 2000. It was an instant hit amongst Black women who at the time were not accustomed to easy-going relatable shows of its caliber.

GREAT NEWS—I have officially secured an editor for my second book!!!

This week I want to discuss intentionally raising your frequency both internally and externally. One of the best lessons I’ve learned and continue to explore is the knowledge of setting the frequency for yourself and your surroundings. When we make intentional actions to vibrate higher, we simultaneously, set up an environment conducive to our most authentic self.

Have you ever heard the saying, they give me butterflies?

Typically, it is a phrase that refers to the giddy, bubbly feeling felt in the body, predominately the stomach, one can feel when they think of or are approaching a special person, lover, or friend.